Do you live on ‘some day island’ or do you live every day as if it is your last? Do you catch yourself procrastinating?
Too many people are putting things off, waiting for the right time when they have what they think they need in order to do what they want to do…
- Waiting for more time
- Waiting for more money
- Waiting for reaching retirement
- Waiting until the kids have left home…
They come up with reasons why they need to wait and they are unconscious of the fact that, by doing this, they set patterns in place which create habits that stop them from doing exactly what they want to do.
If we are not careful we spend our entire life waiting for the right time to do what we want to do not realising the time is running out.
There is no time like the present.
Take a moment, five minutes right now without putting it off and think about the things you have sent out to your ‘some day island’.
‘Some day island’ is where everything is going that you put off, that you procrastinate on.
What have you told yourself so far that you will do but you haven’t done?
Take a piece of paper and make a list.
Now you have your list tell me: if you knew you only have a short time to live, how would you prioritise the list of things you want to do?
Come on! Write it down. It will be for your benefit.
Now that you are thinking about it, decide how much you really want to do these things.
Let’s say you want to go travelling the world. What has stopped you for travelling in the past? Was it a lack of money, lack of time or family commitments?
Most people blame a lack off something but what is really behind it all is fear!
- Fear of stepping outside the norm.
- Fear of failing.
- Fear of being different and being judged.
Disguising the ‘fear’ as a ‘lack of’ makes it easier to live with and we get more support from our friends and families that way too.
We create stories that reinforce the fear of what we don’t have by repeating those stories to ourselves, and this generally dominates the conversation whenever that topic comes up.
For most people it might sound something like this:
- I always wanted to travel but never had the money and time to do it. Maybe I’ll win the lottery one day.
- I couldn’t go because I have a good job and I have commitments to others. I have to wait until I am older.
- The kids stopped me and I have to wait until I am retired to go travelling and see all the places I always wanted to see.
How likely do you think the travel plans will come true in this scenario?
I would say the chances of it ever happening are very slim because the person is reinforcing all the reasons why he/she will not be able to go travelling and in the meantime the fear is growing.
A much better way to go about achieving your travel plans is to use positive affirmations.
So, start by saying things like:
- I will earn more money so I can go travelling.
- I am going to see all the places I always wanted to see by the time I am ‘XX’ years old.
- I can’t wait until I will start travelling.
These affirmations all have a positive outcome attached to them and with that automatically we start asking ourselves some valuable questions like:
- What can I do to earn more money?
- How much time have I got until I am ‘XX’ years old?
- What do I need to do now to start planning my travel?
You have to remember that you get more of what you focus on, and that’s why it is so important to be positive in your thoughts and what you say to others.
With a positive focus you will start asking yourself what you need to do to make it happen and the moment you start asking these questions you will start to get answers.
Then be brave enough and recognise your fears. Ask yourself what is really holding you back?
Addressing your inner fears and bringing them out of the darkness and into the light is confronting but absolutely necessary.
The rest is just simple goal setting where you put all the things you need to do into a step-by-step process and fit them into your time frame. That’s it!
So instead of filling up your ‘some day island’ start planning how to live a life of your dreams and what you need to do to make it happen.
Happy riding everyone!
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